These days, private schools come in all shapes and sizes, including day, boarding, and semester schools. Each has its own merits and unique approach to secondary education, but how do you determine the best option for your child? To find the "right" school, define what you want before you start looking.

The private school classroom
If you believe that academic rigor and high expectations will increase your child's performance and better his or her chances for a successful future, then private schools are a great option. The high academic standards of many private schools are the leading reason so many families choose them for their children.

You might also consider the idea of specialization. If your child has a particular interest, whether it's marine studies or Latin dance, it's quite possible that there's a school that will allow exploration of it within the context of an organized program. At the most selective colleges, admission committees seek students who have a "hook" — that is, a talent or attribute that makes them stand out. Early immersion in specialized study certainly won't hurt your child, but it will enhance his or her educational experience.

While private schools offer some advantages, keep in mind that many public and magnet schools also offer competitive academic and extracurricular programs. Don't rule anything out, especially in the beginning. After all, your goal is to find the school that's best for your child.

The social factor
For some parents, placing their child into a controlled social environment is an important factor. Most private schools strongly encourage student interaction both in and out of the classroom. Your child may forge lifelong friendships while actively developing his or her talents and interests. This depth of participation may also translate favorably on a college application.

If active participation and interaction appeal to you, private schools often give you the chance to be a dynamic part of your child's education. At private schools, it's very common for both students and their families to be heavily involved. In many cases, it's almost as if the entire family attends!

Student concerns
It's most likely that you'll be the one to initiate the private school search, but it could be your ambitious child that brings the issue to the table. Either way, encourage your child to provide input on the matter. Make it clear that you won't negotiate on the final decision, but also be clear that his or her goals and opinions are important to you and will be taken under consideration when a decision is made.

Ultimately, your child is the one who will attend the school. Invest energy into making your son or daughter a part of the search process. It will pay off later!